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Mompetition

What really wears me out is the constant mom’s competition about everything and anything. There is always this mom who has the kiddos who started walking at 6 months or kiddos who can multiple, subtract at 15 months. How about the mother who tries and guilt others into the epidural vs. natural; C-section vs. natural birth; breast feeding vs. formula; staying home vs. working contest?

I really do understand that most of the times we don’t even realize we are doing it. We are all human and so we love to speak about ourselves and share every detail of what’s going on in our and children lives.  Which is what friendship and parenthood is all about anyway! I have come to understand that we need to listen more and try to not to show off about things that might be sensitive to other mother or friends.

I also keep in mind that, we us mothers always long for confirmation that we’re doing things correctly. So when we decide to make different choices from our friends or other mothers, it is natural to support our own style. We have to acknowledge that there is more than one way to be a superior parent! (I believe)

I feel like parenthood as it is has created a sense of vulnerability and we should all be in one team! We should keep supporting each other’s strengths and dwell less on weaknesses. We will sit down days, years or even decades later and look back at the time and moments we lost. When things we thought mattered won’t count any more (which way your baby arrived into this earth, how much they weighed at 2 months) – and realize that our imperfect lives were just beautiful. I am thankful to God and I embrace my imperfect life, and I now know that love is all that matters!

 How do you deal with the bragging, or what advise can you give?

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Bundle them up in germs

So I am one of those germ-a-phobes who refuse to let my kids do fun stuff like eat mud and lay a hand on snails and frogs, so I am coming to realize I am doing these little  ones a huge  disservice. When my son started crawling around our home, grabbing everything in view and putting much of it in his mouth, a toy that a neighbors dog, just chewed on, a shoe the has been into the public bathroom, all got munched on. I freaked out!

How many parents tussle with the thought of exposing their child to germs and infection in daycare/pre-schools and hoping this will strengthen their immune system? I was reading about a mother who just put her son in kindergarten and he’s forever sick. Her pediatrician said that because he stayed at home most of the time and did not go to daycare or pre-school her immune system needed to adjust. “Now some immunology experts are beginning to agree that germs that many parents bleach and disinfect out of existence might help children.”Hygiene hypothesis” holds that when babies are exposed to germs, it helps them fight allergies and asthma later.”

Okay! So be happy to let your toddler crawl around the house, restaurants, even the doctor’s office, and put their fingers and other dirty objects into her mouth. A little germ will not hurt after all…. yucky. Oh my parental pet-peeve: parents who let their sick child go to school, and in public play areas, like seriously!

Let me know what you think~ would knowing expose your kid to a little germs

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