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So some friends have quit! Ohh, Yes leaving face book!  It kind of makes me sad…   I joined FB in 2006 so I am an oldie here! I have reconnected with every lost friend; laughed at every joke, found good pediatricians, recipe etc…?  I would still miss the photos of the weddings I missed, how big and cute my friends  and families kids are getting, as well as pictures of new places to visit and things to do, projects for the kids, recipe and parties to throw!

I have contemplated quitting; I totally agree it has many negatives and many positives! The FB thrill is dying off…its one of those ‘places’ that you love but could be annoying, irritating at the same time. Yes, it could be a time waster; it could stir jealously or used to outdo one another if wrongly used.  You just have to make the best out of it…

positives: I live gazillion miles from my original home (Kenya) and have people from all over the world; so I use it to stay in touch with my them; reconnecting with lost ones…. I feel like I am part of their lives somehow.  I still like talking on the phone and meeting for coffee/wine… Actually some of my very good friends, we don’t even communicate thro FB, we talk on the phone or skype.

Positive: The good laughs… I have a lot of funny friends … The cheers and smiles.. uplifting and prayers…

Positive: Encouragements…It doesn’t bother me that friends put only their best faces and NOT dwelling on their hardships or negatives…life is hard, not perfect.  But why dwell on the hard stuff? its uplifting!

Maryellen ( blogging friend) gave me this verse:  “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:7-9

Positive: I can spy on the little ones and my baby sitters and know what is going on in their lives and text their moms if they are off line :)- ( don’t unfriend me my Little ones, I really love you)

Positive: Status updates ~ oh yah, once in a while I am dying to know how the cake you baked turned out… or whats for dinner… or what your cat  is doing – many important stuff  to know ( yaap! cheap thrills – don’t judge me)

Negative:  it does allow me to be so lazy on checking on people! But I’m sure the same thing, could have been said about people who instantly used the telephone when it was invented instead of traveling to visit.

Negative: The stalkers – I know people who check their face book like 3-4 or 10 times a day, they know what is going on but never say anything… no congratulations, no condolences, no compliments, no comments, no updates.. Just pure stalkers ‘peeping Toms”… those scare me!

Negative: Friendships~ Okay, here you go, have you ever had someone ask you to be their friend and when you meet at the store or church they  act like they have never seen you? I am still shaking my head in disbelief 

Negative: Status ~ the mysterious, suspenseful  “It’s going down….” Really what is…? now I have to stalk your status for 20 days to find out what was Ugh! Oh the self promotions – Enough said…

Negative: when you check me into places –well, some days I want to act like I was home “busy” scrubbing the floors and polishing the windows and not having fun somewhere ok! “kidding lol”

Negative: Brags /insensitive/rude people ~ I am glad I don’t have any friends who brag or insensitive  if I had them…any chances are they have been   unfriended already or hidden or something!

Then I think, why put so much thought into this!  The people, who like to connect in person, will continue to do so and those who love online will to the same. As long as people are CONNECTING…….that’s the important thing… right? I know people who when you call them — they respond back with an email… and some people you send them an email and they call you back — so some people are just online communicators .

I know of  the Facebook snobs too– people who have never had an account on Facebook but know 1 million things that are so bad about it and always telling me what is going one over there! anyway Just join it! I know they are missing out on these good laughs!

So my friends what do you LOVE or NOT love about Face book? Do you believe everyone gets what they want to get out of Facebook?

Truth be told.. I am also guilty of some of these negatives :)- How else can I tell the whole world how great I am?… for free? 

Facebook’s Social Web: How to Protect Your Privacy

JR Raphael, PC World

Protecting your privacy on Facebook can feel like a full-time job. The social network has made a habit of tweaking its privacy policies with some regularity — and in many cases, it’s up to you to take proactive steps in order to keep your info out of the public eye.

This week’s introduction of Facebook’s “Open Graph” is no exception. By default, you’re now opted in to the company’s new social sharing services, and this time, they stretch way beyond the confines of Facebook.com.

If you’re comfortable with that, more power to you. But if you’d rather keep your personal preferences private, here’s a step-by-step guide to taking back control.

Facebook’s Social Web and Your Privacy

Facebook Like ButtonFirst, let’s take a quick jog through what we’re actually dealing with here. There are two key pieces to Facebook’s new Web-wide social services. The simpler one is the universal “Like” button (not to be confused with the universal “Indifferent” button, which I keep hoping will be adopted).

The universal “Like” button looks like Facebook’s regular “Like” button, only it appears on blogs and news sites all over the Web. If you click it while on any external Web site, know that you’re authorizing Facebook to publish your activity right onto your Facebook profile (and hence also onto your friends’ news feeds). Any friends of yours who visit the third-party Web site could also see that you were there. Translation: Don’t click “Like” while visiting NakedOiledNannies.com.

That’s the easy part. The second (and slightly more creepy) part is what Facebook calls “instant personalization.” This is a partnership-driven service in which Facebook automatically enables a “personal and social experience” on certain external Web sites.

Facebook Social Web

So what’s that really mean? Here’s how Facebook explains it:

“When you and your friends visit an instantly personalized site, the partner can use your public Facebook information, which includes your name, profile picture, gender, and connections.”

Put into a real-world example, if you sign-on to Pandora — one of Facebook’s initial partners — the site could automatically dip into your Facebook account and pull your favorite bands from your profile. It could then use that info to build specialized stations for you before you can even say “Selena Gomez.”

The external info-sharing doesn’t stop with you, either: Pandora can also notify anyone on your Facebook friend list if a band they’re listening to happens to appear within your Facebook profile. Yes, your co-workers and other professional contacts will soon be privy to your late-night Miley Cyrus jam sessions.

The same concept applies at other partner sites, which thus far include Yelp and Docs.com.

Facebook Privacy Protection Guide

Prefer not to have your info automatically disclosed? There are five steps you need to take.

1. Head to Facebook’s “Applications and Websites” privacy settings page. Look for the option at the very bottom of the page entitled “Instant Personalization.” Uncheck the “Allow” box, then confirm that you want to opt-out.

Facebook Privacy Settings

That causes your personal data to be deleted from the partner sites, but it doesn’t stop your Facebook friends from accessing and sharing it in the future. In order to do that, you also need to manually block each site manually by performing the next three steps:

2. Go to the Facebook Docs app page. Click the link that says “Block Application” — located on the left-hand side, toward the top of the page — and then click “Block Docs” on the confirmation box that appears on your screen.

3. Go to the Pandora app page. Repeat the process from step 2 to block the application.

4. Go to the Yelp app page. Repeat the app-blocking process once more.

Once you’ve done that, head on to the next step:

5. Back on the “Applications” privacy settings page, click on the button to edit the settings for “What your friends can share about you.” Make sure all the boxes there are unchecked — unless, of course, you want your friends to be able to publicly share any of those types of information — then click on “Save Changes.”

But Wait, There’s More…

Those five steps will protect your privacy for now. But Facebook may add more autosharing partner sites in the future.

Unfortunately, there’s no guarantee that you’ll be notified when that happens. But you can keep tabs on this Facebook Help Center page; it lists all the approved partners, so you’ll be able to see if any new ones have been added that may need to be blocked.

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