What really wears me out is the constant mom’s competition about everything and anything. There is always this mom who has the kiddos who started walking at 6 months or kiddos who can multiple, subtract at 15 months. How about the mother who tries and guilt others into the epidural vs. natural; C-section vs. natural birth; breast feeding vs. formula; staying home vs. working contest?
I really do understand that most of the times we don’t even realize we are doing it. We are all human and so we love to speak about ourselves and share every detail of what’s going on in our and children lives. Which is what friendship and parenthood is all about anyway! I have come to understand that we need to listen more and try to not to show off about things that might be sensitive to other mother or friends.
I also keep in mind that, we us mothers always long for confirmation that we’re doing things correctly. So when we decide to make different choices from our friends or other mothers, it is natural to support our own style. We have to acknowledge that there is more than one way to be a superior parent! (I believe)
I feel like parenthood as it is has created a sense of vulnerability and we should all be in one team! We should keep supporting each other’s strengths and dwell less on weaknesses. We will sit down days, years or even decades later and look back at the time and moments we lost. When things we thought mattered won’t count any more (which way your baby arrived into this earth, how much they weighed at 2 months) – and realize that our imperfect lives were just beautiful. I am thankful to God and I embrace my imperfect life, and I now know that love is all that matters!
How do you deal with the bragging, or what advise can you give?