Exodus 14:13: "The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still" ..


So some friends have quit! Ohh, Yes leaving face book!  It kind of makes me sad…   I joined FB in 2006 so I am an oldie here! I have reconnected with every lost friend; laughed at every joke, found good pediatricians, recipe etc…?  I would still miss the photos of the weddings I missed, how big and cute my friends  and families kids are getting, as well as pictures of new places to visit and things to do, projects for the kids, recipe and parties to throw!

I have contemplated quitting; I totally agree it has many negatives and many positives! The FB thrill is dying off…its one of those ‘places’ that you love but could be annoying, irritating at the same time. Yes, it could be a time waster; it could stir jealously or used to outdo one another if wrongly used.  You just have to make the best out of it…

positives: I live gazillion miles from my original home (Kenya) and have people from all over the world; so I use it to stay in touch with my them; reconnecting with lost ones…. I feel like I am part of their lives somehow.  I still like talking on the phone and meeting for coffee/wine… Actually some of my very good friends, we don’t even communicate thro FB, we talk on the phone or skype.

Positive: The good laughs… I have a lot of funny friends … The cheers and smiles.. uplifting and prayers…

Positive: Encouragements…It doesn’t bother me that friends put only their best faces and NOT dwelling on their hardships or negatives…life is hard, not perfect.  But why dwell on the hard stuff? its uplifting!

Maryellen ( blogging friend) gave me this verse:  “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:7-9

Positive: I can spy on the little ones and my baby sitters and know what is going on in their lives and text their moms if they are off line :)- ( don’t unfriend me my Little ones, I really love you)

Positive: Status updates ~ oh yah, once in a while I am dying to know how the cake you baked turned out… or whats for dinner… or what your cat  is doing – many important stuff  to know ( yaap! cheap thrills – don’t judge me)

Negative:  it does allow me to be so lazy on checking on people! But I’m sure the same thing, could have been said about people who instantly used the telephone when it was invented instead of traveling to visit.

Negative: The stalkers – I know people who check their face book like 3-4 or 10 times a day, they know what is going on but never say anything… no congratulations, no condolences, no compliments, no comments, no updates.. Just pure stalkers ‘peeping Toms”… those scare me!

Negative: Friendships~ Okay, here you go, have you ever had someone ask you to be their friend and when you meet at the store or church they  act like they have never seen you? I am still shaking my head in disbelief 

Negative: Status ~ the mysterious, suspenseful  “It’s going down….” Really what is…? now I have to stalk your status for 20 days to find out what was Ugh! Oh the self promotions – Enough said…

Negative: when you check me into places –well, some days I want to act like I was home “busy” scrubbing the floors and polishing the windows and not having fun somewhere ok! “kidding lol”

Negative: Brags /insensitive/rude people ~ I am glad I don’t have any friends who brag or insensitive  if I had them…any chances are they have been   unfriended already or hidden or something!

Then I think, why put so much thought into this!  The people, who like to connect in person, will continue to do so and those who love online will to the same. As long as people are CONNECTING…….that’s the important thing… right? I know people who when you call them — they respond back with an email… and some people you send them an email and they call you back — so some people are just online communicators .

I know of  the Facebook snobs too– people who have never had an account on Facebook but know 1 million things that are so bad about it and always telling me what is going one over there! anyway Just join it! I know they are missing out on these good laughs!

So my friends what do you LOVE or NOT love about Face book? Do you believe everyone gets what they want to get out of Facebook?

Truth be told.. I am also guilty of some of these negatives :)- How else can I tell the whole world how great I am?… for free? 

Comments on: "Facebook" (21)

  1. Many days I think I would have thrived well if I was born in the honeymooner’s days ~ you just shout out the window.

  2. I love seeing pictures of all my friends’ kids! So many of my friends are from college or way back when I lived in Texas. I rarely see them, but I love getting to see all the pictures of their family as they grow.

    • Thanks Bran, for stopping by… me too I would totally miss seeing A & L ( even though we are neighbors) — I still love seeing them in print.

  3. Goodness. So on point, especially about relationships. I have thought about quitting too, but I like wasting time way better 🙂

  4. I enjoy facebook also. I love the photo’s too. I like to use is as a source of encouragement for others. I use the old saying “If I have nothing nice to say I don’t say it”
    It doesn’t bother me that folks put only their best face on. We all know life is hard, not perfect, and no one has it easy. But why dwell on the hard stuff. It is everywhere. I like that we tend to only portray our happy good times. The bible says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
    Philippians 4:7-9

    • I love it Maryellen ~ I love it.. true! I actually I am put off by the negatives.. I love seeing smiling faces! My dad always encouraged us to smile and give smiles even when things are tough there is 1 or 2 things we could find to smile about.

  5. nyamathiko said:

    Positives: I connected with my brother who never checks emails but will FB. Connected with people all over the world that without FB, I may not have remembered they existed and vice versa.
    Negatives: People tend to fight each other on FB having ridiculous status trying to send a message to someone else.
    Final thought: if used correctly with good intentions, it is a good thing.
    Advice: absolutely do not friend someone you do not know.

  6. Anonymous said:

    Well said Nancy, I contemplate getting off too sometimes but I like to get in touch with some of my friends this way…

  7. zukowskico said:

    Hey Nancy, I enjoy FB and catching up with folks. I ignore the bad and laugh at all the funny stuff. I’d miss you if you are gone, but I can understand why you’d leave. I’ll just have to keep up with your blog. Keep writing!

  8. Jennifer Aguilar said:

    Well said sister!!!! I agree with so much of what you wrote. I took a break once and came back with a refreshed attitude, I hope you don’t leave as I like to see your cute pictures, find out if your cake burned and steal yummy recipes and see photos of places you have gone and may go still that I will never see!!!!!!

  9. Katie Mills Carrico said:

    Thanks for your honesty Nancy! I love you! Just thought you might want to know that I’m making spaghetti for dinner tonight!! LOL!

  10. Jackie Tice Gray said:

    I do love it because I can look at all the photos and funny comments that I want. . .. or I can just delete it from my email when I don’t have the time. I moved a lot throughout my whole life, so know people all over the place. I even found my best friend from 3-5th grade. 🙂 The best part is family and being able to see their stuff and pics and then being able to put things on here so they can look at them. We made an account for Kevin’s mom just so it would be easier for her to view photos and videos! 🙂 So, I don’t see myself ever quitting. Plus, I need to go through my timeline and write down all the good stuff about my kids. . . in notebooks to save for them. 🙂

  11. Andrea Dahlen Folger said:

    Don’t quit! I would miss you!

  12. Stacey Carroll Chamaty said:

    No quitting! I take it with a grain of salt, some people have big heads and they are the best. I love reconnecting, as I too grew up everywhere. Facebook is for fun, don’t take it too seriously 🙂

  13. Ha ha…..ohhhhhhhhh I am the worst in analyzing anything…..other than what am paid to analyze LOL. Without FB i would have no clue abt a lot in the social world due to my busy schedule at work/home/everywhere…..I honestly need to reduce my working/occupied time. For me it’s like a weekly/monthly social update magazine. But i must admit i have really cracked up on the negatives and positives……ha ha! I think nothing of it….or maybe i should start thinking now 🙂 Good food for thought though…!

  14. Terry Lynn Youree said:

    Don’t quit! I need you here to see the kids 😦

  15. Kisache Thrun said:

    Nooooo. Don’t go anywhere. Where else am I going to see pics of kids that look kinda sorta like my kids :

  16. Sarah Omware said:

    Yote umesema ni kweli.. I reconnected with people i hadnt seen in years through FB !

  17. Wendy Marie Hernandez said:

    I’m giving it up for Lent! Can’t wait, to be honest.

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