What really wears me out is the constant mom’s competition about everything and anything. There is always this mom who has the kiddos who started walking at 6 months or kiddos who can multiple, subtract at 15 months. How about the mother who tries and guilt others into the epidural vs. natural; C-section vs. natural birth; breast feeding vs. formula; staying home vs. working contest?
I really do understand that most of the times we don’t even realize we are doing it. We are all human and so we love to speak about ourselves and share every detail of what’s going on in our and children lives. Which is what friendship and parenthood is all about anyway! I have come to understand that we need to listen more and try to not to show off about things that might be sensitive to other mother or friends.
I also keep in mind that, we us mothers always long for confirmation that we’re doing things correctly. So when we decide to make different choices from our friends or other mothers, it is natural to support our own style. We have to acknowledge that there is more than one way to be a superior parent! (I believe)
I feel like parenthood as it is has created a sense of vulnerability and we should all be in one team! We should keep supporting each other’s strengths and dwell less on weaknesses. We will sit down days, years or even decades later and look back at the time and moments we lost. When things we thought mattered won’t count any more (which way your baby arrived into this earth, how much they weighed at 2 months) – and realize that our imperfect lives were just beautiful. I am thankful to God and I embrace my imperfect life, and I now know that love is all that matters!
How do you deal with the bragging, or what advise can you give?
True friends are forever! My best friend is a man (my husband) I met just over 6 years ago, he knows all about me but is still in love with me. My friends are like a pillar of support to me. You know, I am one of those blessed girls, I have the sweetest friends! I have been honored to stand next to them and witness them take their vows and they have done the same to me. We have seen each other through this parenting journey…. our crazy pregnancy dreams (our babies born as tadpole or a fish), and our starving in labor stories, food cravings and our fears.
Even though Life has taken many turns and we have been separated by states, cities, countries and even continents but each time we talk we pick up where we left off, laughing our hearts out. Supporting each other with our ambitions and dreams –and no belittling even when our ideas sound extreme. (like having wolves & vampires as a secret crushes).
So I comprehend the fact that not all friendships are meant to last forever. This is something I’ve been reminding myself over and over especially as an adult. I’m still learning how to choose friends wisely. That might be a little embarrassing knowing I should be an expert at this ~ with all the good friends I have. Sometimes I still depend on the wrong people. Sometimes I have misinformed myself about how close I actually am to a person. None the less, my true friends have been such an amazing gift to me!
Have you ever picked a wrong friend? Do you have friends that you cherish? …. do share.
So I am one of those germ-a-phobes who refuse to let my kids do fun stuff like eat mud and lay a hand on snails and frogs, so I am coming to realize I am doing these little ones a huge disservice. When my son started crawling around our home, grabbing everything in view and putting much of it in his mouth, a toy that a neighbors dog, just chewed on, a shoe the has been into the public bathroom, all got munched on. I freaked out!
How many parents tussle with the thought of exposing their child to germs and infection in daycare/pre-schools and hoping this will strengthen their immune system? I was reading about a mother who just put her son in kindergarten and he’s forever sick. Her pediatrician said that because he stayed at home most of the time and did not go to daycare or pre-school her immune system needed to adjust. “Now some immunology experts are beginning to agree that germs that many parents bleach and disinfect out of existence might help children.”Hygiene hypothesis” holds that when babies are exposed to germs, it helps them fight allergies and asthma later.”
Okay! So be happy to let your toddler crawl around the house, restaurants, even the doctor’s office, and put their fingers and other dirty objects into her mouth. A little germ will not hurt after all…. yucky. Oh my parental pet-peeve: parents who let their sick child go to school, and in public play areas, like seriously!
Let me know what you think~ would knowing expose your kid to a little germs
I am always amazed that the year is gone. When I hear New Year I think resolution time! So I tossed this resolutions thing out of the window so many years ago and I don’t regret it a bit. Less stress, less to do, and more room wiggle. Especially with my two sweet, adorable but busy kids, I can’t seem to stick to simple things anymore. Like making them eat their fruits and vegetables! Oh and when the unpredictable crappy weather sucks my motivation? You know I’m all for simple realistic goals and progress. Furthermore January’s just not a “real” enough reason for me to start doing stuff different. Also I hate dragging my unfinished business to the New Year… but I found an article by Michael Hyatt (michaelhyatt.com) on strategies you may need to employ to making your resolution stick for those of you who are organized, motivated enough to make resolution.
1. Keep them few in number
2. Make them “smart.” (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time bound)
3. Write them down.
4. Go public
So one of my goals (for the 4th year) is to only spend the time “free time” allotted to me in a positive way and to regard disruptions or anger or needy people seeking attention as part of God’s design on my day. I can’t say I’ve accomplished it yet in the past years, but I’m consciously trying. This is the only life I have, and I want to live it fully and with passion, building into the relationships I have and pouring myself into the work I have to do….. And that’s the beauty of it all is that God’s Grace covers me when I slip-up.
So go public, share your resolution…